In chapter seven, Assagioli turns his attention to the interpersonal, social context. He discusses the fact that humans do not live in isolation and must interact in personal and social relationships. He emphasizes the importance of the Will for the "many attempts (that) are being made to replace competition with cooperation, conflict with arbitration and agreement, based on an understanding of right relations between groups, classes and nations." He points out that to arrive at "harmonization" of the wills of those concerned with any particular effort, individual wills must discipline themselves and choose aims that are "consistent with the welfare of others and the common good of humanity."
The individual accomplishes the tasks of such discipline and choice-making by eliminating obstacles and actively developing and expressing a good will. Selfishness presents a significant obstacle. It can be countered by skillful use of the will. Moreover, good will must be mobilized to give energy to make the effort. Another obstacle is self-centeredness, lack of understanding another's perspective and insistence on one's own point of view. Such lack of understanding is itself an obstacle and requires "the intention to understand and also the relinquishing of ... self-centeredness ...". Assagioli says that humanistic psychology provides people with the means for increasing their understanding of others. Humanistic psychology through presents knowledge of how humans are constituted, how humans vary individually and as groups, and promote understanding and expansion of empathy. Empathy is "the projection of one's consciousness into that of another being. ... (A)pproaching him or her with sympathy, with respect, even with wonder, as a "Thou" and thus establishing a deeper inner relationship." Deepening empathy results in a wider and greater appreciation of the "wonder and mystery of human nature." We become aware that human nature involves conflicts and suffering, and a core of goodness and possibility for change in everyone.
With that understanding, Assagioli claims, ...(W)e are induced to drop the ordinary attitude of passing judgment on others. Instead a sense of wide compassion, fellowship and solidarity pervades us." We can both accept the be-ing of others, and also their potential for becoming. We become aware that we have some responsibility for how we influence others, as well. "And the more we are aware of this, the more we can see to it that our influence is beneficent and constructive." And this hinges on our intention. "The good will is ... a will that chooses and wants the good."
Love and Will
Chapter eight begins with the claim that, "One of the principal causes of today's disorders is the lack of love on the part of those who have will and the lack of will in those who are good and loving." From this point, Assagioli explores the types of love: love directed toward oneself; maternal and paternal love; love between men and women; fraternal love, altruistic love; and humanitarian love; impersonal love; and love of God.
Some "observations ... about the general nature of the most important relationships between love and will" follow. As he implied earlier, Assagioli says that usually, love and will are not in balance, but are most often found in inverse relationship. He points out that love is attractive and magnetic and outgoing, while will is more "dynamic" and has a tendency to be "affirmative, separative, and domineering." The differences can lead to opposition of love and will. To love well, is an art that requires use of will.
"To love well calls for all that is demanded by the practice of any art, indeed of any human activity, namely, an adequate measure of discipline patience and persistence. All these we have seen to be qualities of the will." Good loving and good willing both require knowledge about human beings, which is obtained through humanistic psychology. (See above.) After a certain amount of knowledge is obtained, three methods can be undertaken that will lead to "the harmonization and unification of love and will." The three methods are: developing the weaker of love and will, such that both are available; awakening and manifesting the higher aspects of both love and will; and, operating them together in alternation so that each arouses and reinforces the other.
Developing the weaker of love and will means that "emotional types...must see to the progressive development of the will and its increasingly active employment" and "volitional types ... have to take particular care that the quality of love tempers and counterbalances it employment, rendering it harmless and constructive." The will training might consist in "cultivation of aspects in which it may be deficient." This may mean that the person has to overcome inertia or resistance. Where love needs to be strengthened, fear may need to be addressed.
Awakening and manifesting the higher aspects of love and will requires that we first of all recognize that there are lower and higher aspects of both. Compassion is a higher form of love than possessiveness is, for example. And, domination is a lower form of will than directing the will towards non-ego-involved and constructive ends.
Gradual fusion of love and will and their resultant synergy takes place over time, is part of the whole process of psychosynthesis, and "anyone who sets himself to practice it soon realizes how difficult it is."
The Principle and Technique of Synthesis
Assagioli says that achieving "a synthesis between love and will demands much skill in action." Among other things, it "calls for persistent vigilance, for constant awareness from moment to moment." This kind of 'mindfulness' "makes possible the active intervention and commitment on the part of the self, who is not only an observer, but also a will-er, a directing agent of the play of the various functions an energies." To bring about the synthesis (not a compromise, but a "higher unity endowed with qualities that transcend those of either") wisdom is essential. Wisdom works by regulating from a higher level, that of the Transpersonal Self, which is "a higher unifying center of awareness and power." The process of transpersonal psychosynthesis "constitutes the high effort, the central drama of man, who, either consciously or unconsciously, aspires to this goal, or is pushed toward it by his inability to find lasting satisfaction or a true peace until he has attained it."
And in the spirit of this weeks chapter(s) and discussion this morning on the topic of Good Will and Love:
ReplyDelete... I'd like to formally express some Good Will and a hearty 'Thank You' to you Carla and Hedi for your Love and Good will in facilitating us through this seminal book; also to each of us who have engaged in this ongoing weekly teleconference and reading and blog experience.
And to extend out further ... to all the people, networks, communities and creatures and environments that in some way support each of us to be 'present' and 'alive' in the world, as fully (or otherwise) as we are capable of, in each given moment.
In closing I would like to heart-fully offer each of you the gift of these words of wisdom (imo) by Lao Tzu, may they have meaning for you that can be well used on these ongoing .Acts of Will'.
"To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage."
Arohanui - Natasha
Natasha, So glad that what gives us joy to provide is so beautifully received.
DeleteHaving a group like this truly is a blessing all around.
Great Lao Tzu quote.
In Light and Love, Hedi
Thank you Hedi - I really appreciate that - blush :-)
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ReplyDeleteIt is indeed a radical act of love just to sit down and be quiet for a time by yourself. . .
It is the challenge of this era to stay sane in an increasingly insane world. How are we ever going to do it if we are continually caught up in the chatter of our own minds and the bewilderment of feeling lost or isolated or out of touch with what it all means and with who we really are when all the doing and accomplishing is sensed as being in some way empty, and we realize how short life is? Ultimately, it is only love that can give us insight into what is real and what is important. And so, a radical act of love makes sense -- love for life and for the emergence of one's truest self.
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~ Jon Kabat-Zinn
We do not strive for spectacular actions. What counts is the gift of yourself, the degree of love you put into each of your deeds.
~Mother Teresa
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Are we willing to go into the question of knowing oneself? Because oneself is the world. Human beings... throughout the world -- whatever their color, their religion, their nationality, their beliefs -- suffer psychologically, inwardly. They go through great anxieties, great loneliness, have an extraordinary sense of despair, depression, a sense of the meaninglessness of living the way we do. Throughout the world, people are psychologically similar. That's a reality, that's truth, that's an actuality. So you are the world psychologically, and the world is you; and when you understand yourself you are understanding the whole human structure and nature. It is not mere selfish investigation, because when you understand yourself you go beyond yourself, a different dimension comes into being.
What will make us change? More shocks? More catastrophes? Different forms of government? Different images? Different ideals? You have had varieties of these, and yet you have not changed. The more sophisticated our education, the more civilized we become -- civilized in the sense of being more removed from nature -- the more inhuman we become. So what shall one do? As none of these things outside of me are going to help, including all the gods, then it becomes obvious that I alone have to understand myself. I have to see what I am and change myself radically. Then goodness comes out of that. Then one can create a good society.
~J. Krishnamurti, This Light in Oneself: True Meditation (Shambhala, 1999), p. 14-15.
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How do we help? How do we create a saner world or a saner domestic situation or job situation, wherever we may be? How do we work with our actions and our speech and our minds in a way that opens up the space rather than closes it down? In other words, how do we create space for other people and ourselves to connect with our own wisdom? How do we create a space where we can find out how to become more a part of this world we are living in and less separate and isolated and afraid? How do we do that?
It all starts with loving-kindness for oneself...
~ Pema Chodron, Start where you Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living, (Shambhala: 2003), p. 167
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Love is deep, beautiful and whole, integrating body and spirit.
~Thich Nhat Hanh
Hi everyone - if you try to post and have issues I am open to expressing some Good Will and to post 'on your behalf' - if you'd like to do this please just email me on the email used on our 'Group Emails' with the text you'd like to use and I will post for you like I did for Edie's comments as above.
ReplyDeleteIt might just be though that when it asks for the 'robot confirmation' that you will see a scrolling bar on the right of the text. Click your mouse on the scroller and you will likely see the actual text.
With Love - Natasha
Just to clarify my last....there are TWO scrolling bars - see further over on the right there is a larger scroller - this will let you move down the page.
ReplyDeleteAs Hedi so beautifully puts it : "In Light and Love" - Natasha
Been reflecting on the balance of love and will and the higher aspects of each... it has been occurring to me that the higher love, or love in general, is about the resonance with the 'other' that is free of fear, or free of need to protect one's ego. The higher will is will motivated to act inspite of the ego's self preservation or even in conflict with the self-centered ego. I suspect this is the segway into the transpersonal self- the turning the other cheek, the willingness to connect ( resonate vibrationally) in spite of the vulnerability.
ReplyDeleteHi Frankie I really connect with your concept of having the capacity to connect / resonate vibrationally even amidst the experience of vulnerability.
DeleteArohanui - Natasha
"Hardware: the parts of a computer that can be kicked." -Jeff Pesis (technology humour)
ReplyDeleteThought some might enjoy a bit of humour with all the posting challenges we are facing!
I was absent on the discussion because of busy line, so I write few words about my own experience. Working with the chapters and reflecting on my goal to expand my activity connected with my books promotions, I saw which qualities of the will I use. There are as follows: energy, intensity, concentration, focusing, determination, patience. In the middle of January this year I signed agreement with bookstore to market my books, so every day I have a lot to do: sending books from my home or asking printing house to do it, manage proper bills to proper place, paying bills, posting emails or normal letters every day...and many more...Meanwhile I signed next agreement to distibute my ebooks, so I prepare them to be ready to show them in the systems of distribution...It needs also organization...integration...and patience, silence, peace inside of me that everything is good like it is...
ReplyDeleteI see now using the exercice to strenghen...my success is very useful...I did not use it up to now...and decide to do it, especially exercice .."as if"..
A question about working in silence is very meaningful for me. I love silence, I live in silence (in beautiful surroundings full of nature ...and silence too). It is my style of life to live in silence, although aftter being in silence I want to share my inner goods, my experiences, insights with others...writing, teaching..
With light, Ewa
Natasha, thank you for walking me through all this, and thank you for the technology humour...I love it!
ReplyDeleteAnd now, here's a test, this is just a test...
Oh my goodness...It worked this time...
ReplyDeleteHow embarrassing! I didn't even "see" the scroller bar before...
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Edie, Congratulations for engaging your will and persisting.
DeleteThis is such a lovely example of how it all works. Including Natasha's part in it all.
Now those of you still intimidated, and I definitely understand what that is like, do take the risk to sign on. This will definitely give you the experience of what it's like to engage the will and feel the joy of a successful outcome.
In Light and Love, Hedi
Thank you, Hedi!
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